“Rite” of Christian Relationships
The rite of Christian relationships helps families live the priestly mission of baptism. When we work to overcome the selfish, sinful ways we treat one another; imitate Christ’s sacrificial, incarnate love; and consecrate the things we do all day to Christ, it is then that family life becomes a “little way of holiness.”
Here are some concrete practices:
– Prioritize family time. Because we can only form godly children if we spend meaningful time together every day, don’t let outside activities compete with efforts to create a close-knit, family team.
– Be extravagantly affectionate. Christ’s love is generous and incarnate. As a Christian household, imitate Christ by being generously and appropriately affectionate, affirming, and supportive of one another.
– Work hard to respond to one another’s needs (parents and kids) promptly, generously, consistently and cheerfully. Pope St. John Paul II said that Christian relationships are characterized by “mutual self-giving.”
– Practice discipleship discipline in the home. As St. John Bosco taught, reject harsh punishments and focus on teaching, supporting and encouraging godly behavior through “reason, religion and loving kindness.”
“Rite” of Family Rituals
The rite of family rituals equips families to live the prophetic mission of baptism. When families work, play, talk and pray together every day, they witness to the ways Christians relate to work, leisure, others and faith.
– Work rituals. Each day, instead of dividing and conquering, make time to do at least some household chores together. Don’t think of chores as just “things that have to get done.” They are opportunities to learn to be a team and take good care of one another.
– Play rituals. Every day make a point to play together, enjoy one another’s company, and model healthy ways to celebrate your life together.
– Talk rituals. Several times a week have meaningful conversations (not lectures) about faith, values, how God is showing up, and how to take better care of one another.
– Prayer rituals. Pray together as a family throughout each day. Relate to Jesus as another member of the family. Regularly praise Him and ask for His help.
“Rite” of Reaching Out
The rite of reaching out equips families to live the royal mission of baptism. We reign with Christ by serving with Him.
– Take good care of others in the home. Authentic Christian service begins with caring generously for the people under our roof.
– Think about others even when at home. As a family, donate gently used items, look for ways to help neighbors,
and make your home a place where others can enjoy godly fun and fellowship. Regularly engage in charitable service together as a family.
– Implement kind and thoughtful attitudes and use good manners in and outside the home. As a family, be conscious of leaving people happier than you found them.
