Among the many challenges — one might even use the word “crises” — of our society is that of isolation. Increasingly, the exaggerated value that our culture places on individualism lessens our solidarity with others. The result is what some are calling the epidemic of loneliness.

 

Of course loneliness is not a one-size-fits-all condition. Differences in personality, outlook, upbringing and experiences can influence elements of feeling lonely. But taking that all into consideration, we are increasingly becoming a nation of individuals standing alone, even if we are right next to each other. 

 

One can see this if one takes a subway or bus in a major city. We need only to look around and see how many people have earphones, listening to their own music or podcast in a public place, creating their own personal world for the moment.

 

We can well understand that the notable lessening of neighborhood interactions compared to years ago and the demise of participation in voluntary groups and organizations has lessened the opportunities for interactions and friendships. There is also that sense that in modern life, “everyone is just so busy” that social interactions in general are reduced.

 

But we should look at some of the other factors that contribute to loneliness but are less discussed. Those are the diminished rate of marriages, the high divorce rate and the lessening of religious faith and practice.

 

Recently, a study on loneliness published by the American Enterprise Institute noted that “Married Americans feel less alone than Americans who are divorced, those who have never been married, and even those who are cohabiting.” That same study notes that “Americans who are members of religious congregations are less likely to feel lonely… There is a robust relationship between frequency of worship and feelings of loneliness.”

 

It is certainly true that for a number of reasons, many are not called to the vocation of marriage. Jesus, for example, loved deeply Martha, Mary and Lazarus. Marriage also does not guarantee an end to loneliness. Nevertheless, the societal rejection of family and faith is a major contributor to the sadness of isolation. The Christian family can be a witness to the love of God and the companionship of Jesus Christ in our lives. 

 

The reason for these reflections is that each August, the Diocese of Rockford celebrates the Silver and Gold Wedding Anniversary Mass. That ceremony is coming up soon, on Sunday, Aug. 21 at 2:30 p.m. at St. Mary Parish in Huntley.

 

Each year, we gather to invite and pray at Mass with those celebrating 25, 50, 55, 60, 65, and 70 or more years of marriage. That Mass is very popular. I often hear comments later in the year from people who were present. Invariably they recount how meaningful it was that the Church would gather and honor their commitment, sacrifices and fidelity.

 

Because many of these married couples are accompanied by children, grandchildren and perhaps even great-grandchildren, this Mass is also a witness of faith to the younger generations. It is a witness precisely to the combination of marriage and the practice of faith. 

 

When the different couples at different years of marriage stand to be acknowledged and when the total number of years of marriage is calculated and announced during that Mass, it says to our young people that marriage and family is a good thing. Making a commitment and keeping it is possible because God blesses us with the grace of the sacrament to do so. Marriage is also a reminder of the constant need for mutual forgiveness and for sacrifice that helps to overcome isolation and loneliness.

 

The Silver and Gold Anniversary Mass reminds us that marriage, faith and family is one of the time-tested answers to the problem of loneliness and isolation. It is part of God’s plan for the human family, for happiness and for salvation.

 

Please note that for questions or help registering, please contact the LiFE Office at [email protected] or (815) 399-4300. The deadline to submit your names and request a certificate prior to the Mass is Aug. 5.

 

Please come and join us!